Working in the fashion industry for years now, where everything is about beauty and where you are constantly judged by your appearances, it’s sometimes hard to see that there is more than beauty. We shouldn't forget that beauty is such a fading, fragile and temporary thing. Nobody looks awesome forever. I don’t deny that there are older people who still look beautiful, however this youthful beauty which is demanded in the fashion business and which is seen in magazine and in advertisement campaigns, doesn't last. And that’s why we should never rely on it.ESS?“
The question „If the world was blind, who would you impress? “ shows how important it is to think about our added values and what we are able to offer besides our appearances. We should always cultivate our personality and there are plenty of opportunities for us to express ourselves in a creative way.
For me it’s the language and words. One of the few things that truly allows me to express myself is writing. That’s why I love to write. Texts and lyrics are forever. Books remain after death. You can read it again and again. We can express so much with words which isn’t possible otherwise. Through writing, I feel like I need to be nothing more, nothing less than simply myself. Especially writing a diary is a very intense experience. Once I am done with a entry, it’s like coming to peace with my life itself.
Actually, I would like to take this post as well as a way to talk to all those girls who want to become a model, but maybe don’t comply the criteria that the fashion industry requires (even though there are so many exceptions, especially today with all the social media and bloggers). Just remember, it's okay if you don't fit this job. Not everyone can work in this business, but this doesn't mean that those girls aren't beautiful. Beauty is relative anyway. Depending on who’s around, you can be the most amazing creature in the room. Or not worth raising an eye at.
That’s what happens with beauty. It happens to us models, poor little things thrown into the big scary fashion world, where there will always be someone more perfect or more beautiful. Once someone told me, you should never compare yourself to others. You should only compare yourself to the person you were yesterday. Otherwise beauty can make you suffer. People are often as repulsed as they are attracted by beauty. And as thrilling as those adoring looks can be, it’s not easy. It makes relationships with people complicated. Beauty is blinding, and it takes depth and intelligence to see through it to the real person beneath. The danger is that if you make beauty the focus of your life, you attract people who do the same. If it would only be about the surface, then it would be desperately boring and ordinary.
I learned that beauty fascinates and intoxicates. If there’s one thing most guys care about more than anything else in a woman it’s beauty. Every guy wants a beautiful girl standing next to him that he can claim to be his.
But beauty isn’t everything. Sure, it’s the first thing you notice and it decides if you get attracted to someone, but have you ever seen a friend stay in a relationship with someone beautiful, even though the person is miserable?
I realized that looks have absolutely no correlation to the quality and the beauty of the life you create. Our beauty is in our diversity and it radiates from the inside. It’s about the attitude. Not just about a pretty face and a great figure from what we should make a cult of. Rather, we should cultivate personality of becoming better at something every day, becoming more kind towards people and also towards ourself. Being beautiful means first and foremost being yourself. Our personal failings and mishaps are opportunities to know ourselves better, and to grow as a result. Beauty is the convergence of a number of factors: self-assurance, pride, presence, allure, vivacity. A woman is attractive because she feels attractive – hence the importance of self-knowledge and acceptance.
the thing is, whatever is given to you on the day you are born, you are the one who decides who you will become, every day. Beauty grows as we grow into ourselves
Things just seem easier when I focuse on something else that my appearance. I’m constantly trying to become a deeply profound, strong woman in spite of the false dreams which are thrown in this business. Beauty fades. It doesn’t last forever. You might be already passé tomorrow as Karl Lagerfeld says:
Wer heute als schön gilt, wird morgen kaum noch zum Putzen bestellt.
So always remember, what you have today can be over by tomorrow, so enjoy every moment. Life unfolds in the present. But so often, we let the present slip away, allowing time to rush past unobserved and unseized, and squandering the precious seconds of our lives as we worry about the future and ruminate about what's past. One of the hardest parts about today’s culture is that nobody really takes the time anymore. To read, to get to know people in depth, to think, to question. We are so quick to judge everything. And eventually we lock ourselves up in our own judgements.
Ending this post with some quotes: